A mental orgasm is by thought alone, without (needing)
physical stimulation. Many people who have mental orgasms do use them while
having sex or other physical orgasm, but the orgasm is started by mentally
telling yourself to have an orgasm, not a physical reaction. Instead of the
genitals having stimulation and then the brain deciding it reaches a threshold
and tells the genitals to have an orgasm, you simply tell your body to have an
orgasm. You can choose the type of orgasm and often people who use mental
orgasm report getting better and better at the starting of the orgasm to where
they no longer need much, if any, mental arousal, but it is more like telling
yourself to do it – no need for a build-up.
This experience, although not common for everyone, reflects
the deep connection between psychological states and sexual arousal. Here are
several approaches that might help achieve a mental orgasm:
- Deep
Emotional Connection: For many, a deep emotional connection with a
partner can intensify sexual experiences and potentially lead to a mental
orgasm. Sharing intimate thoughts, desires, and emotions can build a
mental and emotional atmosphere conducive to intense experiences.
- Fantasy
and Imagination: Utilizing your imagination to fantasize can be a
powerful tool. Engaging in vivid sexual or romantic fantasies can
stimulate arousal and climax purely through mental stimulation.
- Erotic
Literature or Audio: Reading erotic stories or listening to erotic
audio can stimulate the mind. For some, these mediums can be more
effective than visual stimuli in promoting an intense mental arousal
leading to orgasm.
- Mindfulness
and Focus: Practicing mindfulness during sexual activity or during
personal sexual thought can enhance the experience. Focusing intently on
sexual thoughts or sensations without distraction can heighten arousal and
possibly lead to a mental orgasm.
- Guided
Imagery or Meditation: Some individuals find that guided imagery
exercises or erotic meditations can help in achieving a mental orgasm.
These techniques involve guided thoughts and scenarios that build sexual
tension and arousal entirely in the mental sphere.
- Hypnosis:
In some cases, sexual hypnosis, performed by a trained and consenting
professional, can be used to explore deeper states of arousal and
potentially experience a mental orgasm.
- Safe
and Consensual Exploration: Exploring mental orgasms should always be
a safe, consensual, and pressure-free experience. Communicating openly
with any involved partner about desires, boundaries, and emotional comfort
is crucial.
It's important to note that not everyone may be able to
experience a mental orgasm, and that's completely normal. Sexual experiences
and climaxes are highly individual, and what works for one person might not
work for another. If exploring mental orgasms is of interest, it should be
approached with an open mind, patience, and without pressure or expectation.
Interesting that for some people, there is no need to “build-up”
the orgasm, but simply allow it. The experts say that it is normal for people
to practice at least 3 times, on 3 separate days, before getting a partial or
whole response. The first time is just practicing the focus and arousal, the
second time there is usually a twinge of orgasm or big build-up, and the third
or fourth time the allow happens. Some people are startled by the orgasm and
cause it to stop immediately. That is ok, just try again.
Case study
A 33-year-old woman with vaginismus trained herself to
spontaneously orgasm with only her mind. After a decade of tantric yoga
practice, she proved she could not only attain orgasm whenever she wanted and
with only her mind, she could also control the duration of the blissful state
for up to 10 minutes.
Her skills were recently put to the test. During an
experiment, the woman was asked to lie down on an examination table and either
partake in 10 minutes of continuous orgasm, 5 minutes of continuous orgasm or,
as a control, 10 minutes of reading a book. The orgasms were either achieved
through self-touch or her mind.
Researchers could objectively tell the woman was orgasming
because of a marker in her blood known as prolactin. Prolactin is a hormone
produced by the pituitary gland in the brain, which faithfully spikes in the
bloodstream following orgasm. The magnitude of this spike also coincides with
how much pleasure the person is feeling.
Testing the participant's blood before and after the
trial, researchers noticed a clear change. In this case, the woman's prolactin
levels shot up by 25 percent after 5 minutes of non-genitally stimulated orgasm
(NGSO), and 48 percent after 10 minutes of non-genitally stimulated orgasm.
These levels were nearly on par with the woman's
prolactin levels after genitally stimulated orgasm (GSO). Book reading,
meanwhile, caused no change to the woman's prolactin whatsoever. However, they
note, the woman reported feeling less emotional intimacy from the NGSOs. In
other words, touch seems to add an extra level of feeling, though not
necessarily a better one. To train her brain circuits for a more mindful sexual
climax, the woman in this case study spent years learning body postures and
breathing techniques to become more aware of bodily sensations. Now, she can
access those feelings through thought alone.
Sources and Additional Information:
https://www.sciencealert.com/case-study-shows-it-s-possible-to-orgasm-through-mental-thoughts-only
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/orgasm-just-by-thinking-is-it-medically-possible/
